Lately I have been struggling more than usual to be comfortable in my own skin. Between the chemotherapy and lupus my body once again has become a war zone drowning in excessive fluid, skin breakouts, and puffiness. My body is in a constant state of upheaval yet my mind focuses on the number on the scale and size of my jeans. This all to familiar feeling of self doubt and unworthiness has been at the forefront of my every thought. Wondering when my mind will shift to self love and acceptance I had this epiphany, Nobody tells you it is ok to call yourself beautiful, that it is ok to smile at yourself in a mirror and appreciate your eyes. That it is ok to love your waist line or your legs regardless of their size. That it is ok to acknowledge how smart and witty you are, that you will go places because of your charm and inner beauty. That you will be someone greater than your mistakes. Our society has programmed us to believe that if we speak these things, we are being conceited.
But what if our eyes saw souls instead of bodies, how very different our ideals of beauty would be. How very different this world would be, if it was ok to say you truly loved yourself. Flaws and all. We are in the 21st century where it is said it is the best time to be a woman. Well a huge shoutout to all the women trying to love themselves in a world that’s constantly telling them not to.
I witness everyday women being told on social media she is not enough. Most of the time it is from other women. It is enough for me to bury my head under my blankets and never come out, however I am choosing to write about how I feel instead.
I want you to know it is ok to love yourself, in fact it is necessary. It is necessary so you can give that love freely to not only yourself but to every other women you meet. To praise other women for their beauty, their soul and brains. To raise them up instead of tearing them down. But it starts with you and your self worth.
I have been so fortunate that I have surrounded myself with a tribe of fabulous fighters. Women who know their worth and aren’t afraid to praise another for theirs. Women who show how true beauty is soul deep. Women who know how important it is to share their spirit and their admiration for others. This tribe makes it easier to dig myself out of the irrational thoughts of self loathing. My hope is this tribe continues to expand. That others watch and continue on a mission of acceptance, love, and raising others up.
So my Fabulous Fighters continue to recognize that your reflection will never tell you your worth, as it only shows us skin and never whats beneath. Continue to show others the kindness, generosity and Fabulous Warriors you are. I admire you all and continue to value everyone of your amazing souls.
“The success of every woman should be the inspiration to another. We should raise each other up. Make sure you’re very courageous; be strong, be extremely kind, and above all be humble.” -Serena Williams
All My Best you, Fabulous Fighters,