A year ago yesterday, I had the pleasure of meeting Loren Raye at The Miss Pink Pageant. Loren was the Emcee and brightened the stage for us warriors with her passion and energy. Loren has become a dear friend and will be serving as the Emcee of The Miss Pink Pageant again this year, her fourth year! You may know her as the co-host of the TJ Show on 103.3 AMP Radio out of Boston, please welcome Loren Raye!
Q: Where are you from? Where do you call home?
A: Originally Basking Ridge, NJ
Q: What do you do for “work”?
A: I co-host the TJ Show on 103.3 AMP Radio in Boston, every weekday morning from 5:30 – 10:00a.
Q: How long have you been doing this?
A: I’ve been doing mornings for 10 years now. The past five have been here in Boston.
Q: How did you get started?
A: I interned for the show I grew up listening to, Elvis Duran & the Morning Show on Z100 in New York. I adored every second of it, stayed in touch with everyone, and when they needed to hire a new call screener, I applied. I actually got the job during my senior year of college, so I left Penn State a semester early to work for the show (I literally went from going to bed at 2:30a to waking up at 3:45a in a matter of 72 hours, haha). I finished my degree online while working full-time and managed to graduate on time with all of my classmates.
Q: What inspires and motivates you?
A: I am so inspired by women who are working hard to do what they’re passionate about. Especially in our industry, you meet a lot of people who want to use radio to be “famous.” You also meet a lot of people who seem to have zero integrity and will do anything to get attention. So when I’m able to meet like-minded women who simply work hard and remain focused, it floors me. No matter what their industry is, if you’re a smart, talented woman who is kind, you are my kind of person. Extra bonus points if you use your platform for good and help others along the way. That’s why I created my “Badass Chick of the Week” feature, where I highlight a woman or girl following her passion, giving back to the community and/or breaking stereotypes. I think it’s incredibly important to share these stories and hopefully they can serve as positive role models to younger girls.
Q: What tips do you have for anyone looking to get into the same thing?
A: Work. Your. Ass. Off. I can’t tell you the number of unpaid internships I took. Sure, I had to fill a few coffee cups along the way or transcribe hours-long interviews, which was never fun. But I did it with a smile because I genuinely loved the industry, and I knew that it would lead me to something better. Your attitude is everything. If you are smart and hard-working and expect nothing in return, people will notice you and start giving you the responsibility you so desperately crave. So find that internship and think of it like a months-long interview. Prove that you are reliable and make yourself invaluable. Then you can start demanding that cash!
Q: What distracts you from your goals? How do you overcome those distractions?
A: Such a great question. If I’m being really honest, the thing that’s been distracting me most from my goals lately is that I’m trying to figure out who I am and what my new goals are. Since I Was 16, all I wanted to do was be the co-host of a show. By the time I was 26, I reached that goal. But it was in a new city, away from my family and most of my friends, and we were building it from the ground up, so I became so hyper-focused on building the show that I sort of forgot to check in with myself and set new goals along the way. Which sounds ridiculous, and like SUCH a first-world problem: poor little girl, she reached her goal and now she doesn’t know what to do, boo hoo! But it’s the truth. So much of my identity was related to what I wanted to in the future that once the future became the present, I had no clue what I wanted next. So, I would say my distraction is myself. So much of my world has changed (new city, new job, new relationship, new husband, hopefully new babies!) that I need to find that next project career-wise. I adore what I do and have zero desire to change it it; I just need to find a way to turbo-charge what I’ve already got.
Q: Do you have any daily routines or rituals that help you to be at your best?
A: I set my clothes out every night before bed, and my breakfast (oats) is always made before, too. I find that if my routine is already broken within the first hour of my day, I’m not setting myself up for success. But having my clothes laid out, my breakfast in the fridge and a water bottle in my trunk really helps me to kick-start the day properly.
Q: What are your non-negotiables in life? How has keeping these things a priority helped you to be successful?
A: Sleep! And therapy. When I was planning my wedding I wasn’t getting any sleep, but I didn’t realize it. My body literally crashed and burned after the wedding was over, so I took the time to re-set my sleep schedule. I function OK without a lot of sleep, but long-term, I burn out and it’s not good for me, or for my family. And as for therapy, I’ve been in and out since I was 8 years old (I’m now 31) because my parents forced me to go after their divorce. I’m grateful for it. There’s a lot of stuff I’m still working through, and there are weeks that I absolutely hate going, but overall it’s helped me become a better person for my husband and for my work family. Ultimately, it allows me to be happier with and prouder of myself.
Q: What do you like to do for fun?
A: I love watching television. Laugh all you want, but I’m an entertainment junkie. I get a high when I see people putting on great performances and using their talents to bring people like me joy. And sometimes, it’s great to just watch stupid television and not have to use my brain. (Or to remind me that my life is not nearly as F’d up as these crazy people’s lives!)
Q: Do you have any pets? If so, tell us about them
A: Nope, I’m boring!
Q: How can our followers find you (website, social media, etc)?
A firm believer that women need to empower other women and offer solid role models to young girls, Loren created her “Badass Chick” segment to highlight women and girls who are following their passion, giving back to the community and/or breaking stereotypes. It airs every Friday at 7:10a ET on The TJ Show.
I was honored to be featured as one of Loren’s Bad Ass Chicks! Find the interview here: https://1033ampradio.radio.com/blogs/loren-raye/lorens-badass-chick-fabianna-marie-miss-pink-2017