Mean Girl Culture

“The strongest actions for a woman is to love herself, be herself , and shine amongst those who never believed she could.” Unkown

This article has been buiding up for quite sometime.  Anyone who knows me well, knows I take everything in, process, then proceed with my own thoughts. SO here goes, This is how we heal the “mean girl” culture- We start with love. Love for ourselves. Then we spread that love, we spread the empowerment, and we model this everyday until there are no more woman tearing each other down.

This article has not only been brought on by my own dealings with woman who have tried mutiple times to tear me down and  make me feel insignificant but by the latest and heart wrenching media frenzy with Miss America, Cara Mund.  Although I don’t know Cara personally,  I have been involved in pageants for over 30 years.  As a contestant, a judge, a coach and a director my dealings with the Miss America System go way back.  For a system that prides itself on scholarship and empowering woman we have entered a whole new level of “mean girl” status when we are speaking about the leaders of this organization.  Shame on this organzation for making Cara (Miss America) feel any less than the powerful amazing woman she is.  Cara has been belittled, bullied, and silenced by an organization and indivduals who have a tag line on their profile of “Empowering woman.” I call bull shit!!! How dare any woman belittle and undermine another while spouting #METOO-

This has to stop! It starts with me, and it starts with you. In a day in age where woman are still fighting for equality in leadership and life the time is now to fight and stand up for your sister. We are all in this together, there is room for everyone at the top. There is no ceiling and no limitation to the greatness we can build together.

The reason I started Fabulously Fighting was becasue I knew the power of woman. I witness it everyday. I am blessed by the powerful, kind, generous, and loving women I surround myself with. Some of my greatest friends are pageant sisters and I will be damned if the Miss America System breaks down a powerhouse like CARA. It is time for us to rally and raise each other up.  My heart truly hurts for any woman who has or will ever experience being bullied by another woman. SO I will leave you with these thoughts. Strong woman aren’t simply born. They have forged through the challenges of life. With each challenge they grow mentally and emotionally. They move forward with their head held high and strength that can not be denied. A woman who’s been through the storm and survived is a Fabulous Fighter!!!

All my love to you,





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